3 Types of Problems in Romantic Relationships
There are various problems that every couple experiences through the time of being together. Some problems are solvable and others are not. There are three types of problems in romantic relationships and I want to share all three of them with you today.
Type 1: Solvable problems
These types of problems can be easily solved when a couple learns to communicate their wants and needs affectively, while preserving feelings of love, empathy, respect, and understanding during disagreements.
Type 2: Perpetual problems
These are the types of problems that are never going to be solved. Every couple has a number of unique issues that are mostly based on their core differences such as personality traits. Some examples include miss matched libido or differences in opinions on cleanliness of your house and handling finances, etc.
Type 3: “Gridlocked” perpetual problems
These are unsolvable problems that are constantly discussed. However, a couple is not able to hear one another, which often leads to emotional disconnection. Usually, their underlying needs and dreams that hide under these types of perpetual problems. Whenever a couple tries to communicate about these problems, it may feel like banging their heads against the wall.
Keeping Your Connection Strong
So here’s the main key to keep your connections strong with each other even when dealing with grid log perpetual problems. You need to turn your grid luck into a healthy dialogue, where you both learned to regulate your own emotions in the moment in order to show acceptance and empathy. You need to remember that you still love each other and are not enemies in the moment of here conversation. Explore each others meanings of the problem because the problem itself is not the issue, but it is what is hidden under the problem. Except that some of your problems will not be solved, and that is OK! Perpetual problems give you and your partner opportunities to learn how to except one another’s differences.
Please reach out if you and your partner decide to seek therapy. I would love to be helpful during your journey towards an improved romantic relationship!