Do This Instead of Complaining About Your Partner

Do you ever find yourself feeling disappointed about something that you expected your partner to do, but they didn’t? For example, you made a comment about how the trash was full, but your partner did not take it out. So, you found yourself walking around your home, annoyed that your partner did not understand your hint. Or, you made several hints that you wanted something for your birthday, but your partner got you something else. 

Setting Up Your Partner for Success

I want you to learn to set up your partner for success, instead of failure and disappointment, in your eyes. Nobody can read your mind, and that includes your partner. Hints are an immature way of expressing your need, which is doomed for disappointment.

Here Is a Helpful Tip

A tip to help with this is to shift from complaining about something not being done to making a clear and reasonable request. 

Examples of Shifting Away From Complaining

“Honey, I would very much appreciate it if you took out the trash sometime today. Is that something you can do?”

“Babe, if you are planning to get me something for my birthday, I would really like  xyz.”

“I am having a hard time dealing with emotions right now. I would like you to stay with me and hold me for a little bit. Can you do that for me?” 

Showing Appreciation for Even the Smallest Things

When your partner meets your request/need, give them appreciation for doing that. 😊

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